Can you change the Present? Lets break this moment into frames of events that is happening. For now, let's make each frame to be 1 second long. Look at each frame as they are passing. There is so much that is happening within each frame. Is there any one on this earth that can change the events of all the frames that have passed and are gone? NO this is the past.

Is there any one that can change the events that is happening in this present frame moment? Think carefully about this one because you can easily say that I can change anything in this moment. NO you can't change this moment. If you think you can, then in actual fact if you take action to make a change, you are actually making the changes that will happen in the next moments to happen but that specific moment is unchangeable. SO the only moments that you have the ability to make changes are the future moments. OK this is true for each frame second that is passing. What about the bigger events like my career; my family etc? Well this is just a scaling issue. Depending on the event that you are analysing the frames can vary from a very small fraction of a second to many years. It is just time and the basic fact is the very now frame moment in any scale is unchangeable. If you take steps to change that particular frame you are making changes in the future frames. So why fight this moment, give up the conflict in your mind and take every moment the way it is.